• Quickly hire the right lawyer. Hire someone who is well respected by judges in your community. If you have questions, fears or concerns, type them up and leave them with your lawyer’s secretary. Then, follow up within a day or two.
• Devote time each day to legal matters.  Take care of what your attorney requires—such as providing information or researching certain facts. After work and on weekends, you will need to be an investigator—looking for assets your ex-to-be may be hiding, planning your strategies, finding out facts and managing emotional upheavals.
• Ask good friends to meet you after work. Ideally, these friends will work in another setting.  Try to talk out your most intense frustrations early on.  Don’t go crazy unloading your pain.  Otherwise, your support persons might disappear.  
• Expect to experience crazy emotions. You are normal if you feel everything from rage to enormous relief. Keep in mind that divorce is the death of a relationship. You will grieve in stages—with emotional issues surfacing for years afterward.
• Take excellent care of your physical health. Eat a well-balanced diet, and consider a multi-vitamin to replenish B-complex vitamins your body will quickly use under stress. Be sure to exercise and get enough sleep.  

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